Hey, it's not too late! Don't give up! Yes, your stomach churns over your adult children's bad choices. You didn't raise them to be that way! Your heart aches as they engage in self-destructive behavior or they've just added one more toxic relationship to their friend list. In shock you watch them pile up credit card debt while making little or no effort to find a job. They sit around spending countless hours playing mind numbing video games and texting. Encouraging them to move out on their own is met with guilt laden accusations that you're "kicking them out." They refuse to respect your house rules and feel like martyrs if you ask them to help with the chores. Or you discover to your dismay that they're living with someone and having your grand babies with no plans to get married. Efforts to try to talk only erupt into shouting matches and now they don't call or come around much. The knot in the pit of your stomach doesn't go away and discouragement feels like your only companion. You're overwhelmed with feelings of hopeless resignation. "What's the use? Nothing works. Now what!" Mending Fences Healing Hearts starts right where you are. It begins by re-energizing your dwindling hope with practical ways to build a better relationship with your adult children. Dr. Chuck Lynch, author, biblical counselor, and international speaker on family issues, has helped many discouraged parents mend broken relationships with their adult children. Chapter 1 begins by restoring your perspective. You are done parenting. Now, you must view your kids as adults like God does, even if they are not acting like adults. Failure to grow up does not excuse a person from adulthood. Dr. Lynch describes in chapter 2 the first practical step to take. It's a hard one. Rather than talking to them parent-to-child, adjust your communication style to adult-to-adult. That one change has mended many relational fences. Talking down to them doesn't motivate them to grow up. In Chapter 3 learn how to advise when asked or what to do when they don't choose to follow your advice or don't even ask for it. There is a way to open a closed mind. One thing that tears you up is their failure to fulfill your expectations and dreams. Chapter 4 shows how to adjust your expectations to fit today's reality and gain some welcome peace. Undoubtedly, you did the best you could with the information and maturity you had when you raised them, but you made a few mistakes. In chapter 5, discover how to give an